tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post1848540965126288770..comments2012-01-06T19:09:14.487-08:00Comments on All the Mommies: It gets betterAline Carsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02636637578826673712noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-21163045910961491442010-03-21T21:12:55.646-07:002010-03-21T21:12:55.646-07:00I know what you're going, I've been there....I know what you're going, I've been there. For me was very weird because my first signs were very physical and started right in the hospital. When Raquel was born, via c-section, she got amniotic fluid in her lungs and was taken to the NICU. Not fun at all, you expect to have your baby next to you in the room. She was born in the middle of the night, throughout the day I took naps, when the night came around again I could not sleep! My heart started racing, I couldn't breathe, I started walking to feel better and my husband had to hold me not to fall. I called the nurse, she took all my vitals, found nothing wrong. Making a long story short, I didn't sleep for days, the doctors could find nothing physically wrong. After talking to my sister in Brazil I realized that I had ppd, and it was really hard for me because when my daughter was born I was already extremely stressed out and exhauted. I got better with time( Raquel is now three), I still take my medications, and it's still a work in progress. I had to choose what things are really important for me and what things don't deserve me to spend energy on( which could be washing the dishes tomorrow instead of tonight or not going to that friend's baby shower, even though many will think I should- I only should do what I know it's best for me or what I need to do for me, or not do). One thing I can tell that worked for me: take care of yourself, find things that yu enjoy and do them, even though sometimes you need all your energy just to get out of the house. It helps!Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03417641257405483868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-57839887034131577272010-03-16T15:33:40.518-07:002010-03-16T15:33:40.518-07:00thank you so much for your comments, you're al...thank you so much for your comments, you're all super sweet!<br /><br />LIESL, the main thing I recommend is therapy. I am a true believer in counceling/therapy and have learned SO MUCH about myself, how strong I can be and that I am, indeed, "normal." It's so good to talk to someone who won't tell you how to fix things but rather help you find solutions that help you. Maybe bring up counceling with those people you know? Hopefully it will help :)<br /><br />thank you all!<br />hugs!Kika VilaNovahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04349124295402019894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-81511806162548002862010-03-15T22:14:56.001-07:002010-03-15T22:14:56.001-07:00Kika, I really appreciate you sharing this! I hav...Kika, I really appreciate you sharing this! I have known some people who are affected severely by depression and I want to help so bad but don't know what I can possibly do to help. What have others done that help you most?<br />Also, something that came to mind while reading this, I once herd Elder Bednar say (in a class I took from in) that what matters is that we want to become better; we may not be perfect, we may try and fail, but if that desire is there than we can't fail in the end. So the fact that you want to be there for Olivia and you want to find medication that helps is a huge success! I had "baby blues" for a few weeks and it was so hard to do anything, I can't imagine what it would be like for that to not go away. Hang in there and I really hope you find a medication that helps!Lieslhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12161019940984263566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-86398377850223971442010-03-15T16:53:16.223-07:002010-03-15T16:53:16.223-07:00Kika, thank you SO much for sharing this with us. ...Kika, thank you SO much for sharing this with us. I don't know you very well but I know you're a very, very special girl. I've always thought this about you. Just for the fact that you were able to write about this shows that you're stronger than you think you are. The trick you already know, is to take it one day at a time. And motherhood does add stress to our lives but it adds so much more happiness too. <br />I really hope you'll be able to find some medication that will work out, and I know that people who suffer from depression can't go without it. I read once on the Ensign exactly what you said, that it is naiive of people to think that prayer alone will help you get through this. It is definitely a part of it, but there are other things you can do to try to feel better. I hope it will go away soon!!!! <br />Oh, and Olivia is sooooo darling. But I know you're tired of hearing that!!! ;)Aline Carsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02636637578826673712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-37031954214245185382010-03-15T13:13:23.745-07:002010-03-15T13:13:23.745-07:00I've never suffered from depression so I can&#...I've never suffered from depression so I can't really comment much. I hope things get better for you and that you find an antidepressant that helps you feel back to normal. <br /><br />Beka, had a good comment (I don't know if you are doing this already) about keeping yourself busy with activities that you enjoy doing is a great way to forget our troubles.<br /><br />Also, focus on your family and the love/happiness/joy that they bring to you. They are probably your best support. <br /><br />Happy Birthday to your daughter in advance!Patyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09749011420422322253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-78001739295972044962010-03-15T13:07:36.257-07:002010-03-15T13:07:36.257-07:00Hi Kika, I had ppd too, somewhat milder, but I kno...Hi Kika, I had ppd too, somewhat milder, but I know how hard it is. Mine lasted about 12 weeks. It will pass, one day you will wake up and you will be fine... My love for you and thanks for sharing your story!<br />KellyKelly Hammerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01876959520176774432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-91207430749308621292010-03-15T12:15:59.153-07:002010-03-15T12:15:59.153-07:00Eu não sou mãe, mas sei de mtos casos de depressão...Eu não sou mãe, mas sei de mtos casos de depressão pós parto.<br />Kikinha vou colocar seu nome em minhas orações.Vou orar e mandar ótimos pensamentos pra vc.Depressão ñ é fácil, eu não tive,mas conheço inúmeras pessoas que amo que já tiveram e até tem.Td dará certo.É apenas uma fase ruim.<br /><br />Lembre-se de qnto vc é especial,d e qnto o senhor te ama e cuida de você.Você foi e é mto especial, ainda mais compartilhado sua história aqui no blog.<br /><br />Amamos vc!<br />Bjus<br /><br />NáNáhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16932743005016142382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-13875575811351944872010-03-15T10:41:19.862-07:002010-03-15T10:41:19.862-07:00I think Kika is very courageous to tell us all thi...I think Kika is very courageous to tell us all this. In part, it is like she said: we have to be honest to ourselves. And I think she is being honest to herself, when she admits having this problem. I feel so sorry that she needs to go through all this. I wish I could help in some way. It is hard for me to imagine what all this can be, because I have never really gone through depression of any kind. I did feel a lot tired and overwhelmed after my daughter was born and some days I just cried involuntarily because of all the pressure and demand that having a newborn can bring. My body was so tired that tears would come down my eyes without me knowing it. And I guess I learned that this is all okay and it is normal.<br />Kika, I know a lot of people might have told you that already, but I know you are a great woman and you have so much power in your hands. Olivia is so precious and you are the most important person in her life. She needs is you, as you need her so bad.<br />Life is full of adversities and I hope this illness is just a phase in your life and that everything will get better.<br /><br />Try to find things you like to do most and DO THEM. I know we all have so much to do lately, but we do need to get sometime to ourselves, something to be our "release" and that will help us feel better and live better. <br /><br />I think church helps a lot, but it is not everything.<br />I do struggle sometimes with all the chores that need to be done and I feel I can't do them all. Then I stop everything and try to concentrate on myself and my daughter and my husband. And all will be better, because they are here with me.<br />xoxo<br />BekaRebeca Pricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13787569893828383305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-34137885388639118442010-03-15T10:32:59.161-07:002010-03-15T10:32:59.161-07:00Kika, my heart goes out to you. I had a milder cas...Kika, my heart goes out to you. I had a milder case of ppd. More like the baby blues....and it wasn't fun. I want to document my story here too, maybe next week. I'd love to talk to you about it. I learned I few things that really worked for me at the time, but I'm not sure it works for everyone. It doesn't hurt to try though right??<br />I hope you feel better and just remember, no one feels 100% every day all the time. It's ok to have crappy days and days you just want to cry your eye balls out...they come and they go and we feel better and then not so hot again....that's only human...so don't feel guilty about it! You are a great mom and you are doing your best!!! FORCA!!!!!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734780460643273236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-584863604663925807.post-75749971184629090352010-03-15T09:00:00.395-07:002010-03-15T09:00:00.395-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Lieslhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12161019940984263566noreply@blogger.com